Life if Messy – Loneliness

March 6, 2022   /   Bolton Community Church

This series has covered a lot of difficulties you and I face in life.

Such as:

  1. Stress – JESUS
  2. Failure – PETER
  3. Negativity – ELIJAH
  4. Discouragement – NEHEMIAH

And so that brings us to today.

Today’s mess that I want us to explore is the mess caused by LONELINESS. Let’s look at the definition of loneliness:

To be alone. I believe it’s a legitimate fear of many. I believe firmly that loneliness is how Satan wants you to live. He wants you to feel isolated, cut off. But that’s not how God wants you to live! God doesn’t want you to be alone!

(Genesis 2:18)

And for the apostle , there were to his loneliness 

Notes on the above cause:

He was facing in his life and what did Paul want?

Verses 9 & 13 Paul tells Timothy

Vs. 21 “Do your best to get here before winter.”

Paul wanted to put an end to and as a result, to his loneliness.

Rejection no matter who you are. 

So those are the three basic causes of loneliness.

  1. Transition
  2. Separation
  3. Rejection

That is what was causing Paul to feel alone.

GOD’S CURE FOR LONELINESS. It’s simple. It’s a one-word cure,

You know I’m not sure why, but it seems as though the topic of friendship has fallen on hard times. There’s not a lot written about friends. There aren’t a lot of new songs about friends. 

tells us a lot about friends:

See if these sound familiar:

“Bad company corrupts good morals.”

“you’re never gonna turn out right doing the wrong.” And so often that fits into the context of choosing your friends…

“you’re known by the company you keep.”

All of these serve as warnings that the righteous should choose your friends CAREFULLY!

Now, while we are on the subject of it, it needs to be said that men should choose men to be their friends. And ladies should choose ladies to be their friends. That’s safest. That’s best.

And so you’re like – yeah, I’m all about that…

  1. So how do you choose your friends?

4 words:

Your best friends should be born again, Bible believing, fully devoted, followers of Jesus Christ.

Choose friends who are doing what you’re doing. 

Choose friends who are feeling what you’re feeling. 

Choose friends who will be fighting what you’re fighting.




Proverbs 17:17 – “a friend loves at all times. And a brother is born for adversity.”

III. your friends

Proverbs 16:28 – “A perverse man stirs up dissent

  1. CORRECT your friends

The most difficult thing to do is to correct your friend. It’s MUCH easier and more comfortable to ignore the wrong.

CONCLUSION: Friends are God’s cure for loneliness. But to have good friends – you’ve got to be a good friend.

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