How To Ruin A Friendship

Jesus gave one of the essential principles of life in:

Truly, truly I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. John 12:24

Jonathan is an of this verse.

There are danger areas in friendship.

1. We choose the friends.

Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”  1 Corinthians 15:33

Blessed is the person who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked,
Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers!
But his delight is in the Law of the Lord, And on His Law he meditates day and night.
Psalm 1:1-2

1. We the wrong friendships.

The destruction of friendship

If you want to ruin a friendship – there are rules we can learn from Saul.

1. Make sure your friendship is based on what the other person do you. (Be .)

Then David came to Saul and attended him; and Saul greatly loved him, and he became his armor bearer. So Saul sent word to Jesse, saying, “Let David now be my attendant for he has found favor in my sight.” So it came about whenever the evil spirit from God came to Saul, David would take the harp and play it with his hand; and Saul would feel relieved and become well, and the evil spirit would leave him.
1 Samuel 16:21-23

This is what is called: a born out of .

This relationship is .

1. Be . Do all you can to isolate.

And Saul took him that day and did not let him return to his father’s house.
1 Samuel 18:2

1. Cultivate . Hold on .

Now it happened as they were coming, when David returned from killing the Philistine, that the women came out of all the cities of Israel, singing and dancing, to meet King Saul, with tambourines, with joy and with other musical instruments. The women sang as they played, and said, “Saul has slain his thousands, And David his ten thousands.” Then Saul became very angry, for this lyric displeased him; and he said, “They have given David credit for ten thousands, but to me they have given credit for only thousands! Now what more can he have but the kingdom?” And Saul eyed David with suspicion from that day on.
1 Samuel 18:6-9

Saul had developed the fine art of .

1. Don’t discuss your and irritation – .

Now it came about on the next day that an evil spirit from God rushed upon Saul, and he raved in the midst of the house while David was playing the harp with his hand, as usual; and a spear was in Saul’s hand. Then Saul hurled the spear, for he thought, “I will pin David to the wall.” But David escaped from his presence, twice.
1 Samuel 18:10-11

To things up – acts like a cooker.

1. the person.

Now Saul was afraid of David, because the Lord was with him but had left Saul. So Saul removed him from his presence and appointed him as his commander of a thousand; and he went out and came in before the people.
1 Samuel 18:12-13

1. envy.

Our society has little use for the word .

Jealousy is the attitude that makes me what I have.

Envy is the that makes me for what others have.

David was successful in all his ways, for the Lord was with him. When Saul saw that he was very successful, he was afraid of him. But all Israel and Judah loved David, for he would go out to battle and return before them.
I Samuel 18:14-16

Envy – has two handmaids – and .

1. Harbor in your heart. Believe your of contempt are justified.

Now Saul told his son Jonathan and all his servants to put David to death.  1 Samuel 19:1a

When Saul saw and realized that the Lord was with David, and that Michal, Saul’s daughter, loved him, then Saul was even more afraid of David. So Saul was David’s enemy continually.  1 Samuel 18:28-29

Is there a remedy?

Therefore, if you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there you remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering.
Matthew 5:23-24